The hard truth.

Not too long ago, the video Nicole Arbour "Dear Fat People" video broke out. What I saw it many, many time pop up on my Facebook I simply ignored it for weeks. I knew the chances of me watching it and either getting upset or offended would be pretty high. I ended up seeing a blog post from the guy who was mentioned in the video, and that's when I chose to watch it and see what all the fuss was about. The fact that people founds this funny and shared in support says a lot about them than it does about me being offended. Needless to say, I ended up writing how I felt about the situation. Part of me didn't know or understand why anyone was finding this funny after watching, but clearly Nicole got the attention she wanted. 

First, let me point out, there's a fine line for controversial humor. Coming from someone recovering from an eating disorder, I couldn't imagine watching this video years ago before I entered recovery or while I was still fragile. Saying my feelings would have been hurt is an understatement. Sure, some of you laughed, but I'm sure it made thousands of others situation worse. Not even a minute into the video she mentions how fat shamming isn't real, then continues to say "Stop eating." Not that all eating disorders are caused by people, but people like her are a factor into why, as she said, they stopped eating, or got rid of what they ate. How dare you tell someone to "stop eating" someone who is far, skinny, fit, slim, ANYONE. Do you have any idea those words have an affect  on someone. Let alone, if that person has an eating disorder? 

Sorry, Nicole.. but when I stopped eating like you're trying to tell many other "fat" people to do, is what caused my health issues- health issues are health issues. Just like the few you talked about from "fat people" being so "fat". Sure, you're right. Many people die from being "fat", but so do millions from eating disorders. May I add not all health issues are caused by being "fat"? Crazy, I know.

Body shamming is REAL, aside from what you believe, and that also includes fat shamming. Being a straight up bitch and judgmental, that is also real. This "hard truth" probably didn't help anyone. If anything, it made it worse. "I'm not saying this to be an asshole." Then you might want to work on how to say things. Don't act like you really are putting this video up to help anyone but yourself. So then next time you want to actually help someone, try being motivating and uplifting instead of degrading. You have no idea the battles people are facing and you have no idea how hard they are fighting. Believe it or not, you can be funny without criticizing.

It really bothers me the people think it's their place to say something, let alone someone like Nicole, society beautiful. Telling someone to "make better choices" and to "stop being lazy" is never your place, especially in a situation similar to this. Also, that couldn't be the case. Not all "fat" people are lazy, need to make better choices, or even need your unwanted advice from your narcissistic self.

You didn't do this to help anyone, you did this for ratings. I'm guessing they dropped.

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